We decided to get checked out and they found I was the one with the problem. I felt terrible when they told me as I am a proud man and the thought of not being able to get my wife pregnant was very hard for me to deal with.

If this fails we may only be left with the option of donor sperm. My wife and I have not had a stuart to discuss this possibility but you can imagine the implications it could have on our marriage. They said my sperm count was low and I would need treatment. I do not know how other guys feel when they are given news like this but I feel helpless.

My wife and I had been trying to get pregnant for over a year. I have to admit she has been fantastic and tells me it will be okay. If that does not work they may have to artificially inseminate the sperm into my wife's eggs. So far they have given me some medication and there has even been talk of surgery. Am I a big enough person to give my wife a baby this way.

The doctors have said if it is genetic there is not a lot they can do.