If they have reached menopause, the fear of getting pregnant no longer exists and they can enjoy their sexuality without running to the pharmacy to buy a pregnancy test. Women over 40 tend to know who they are and what they want.

If they have children, they are likely not to be so concerned with having more. A Cougar can be a good friend, confidante, mentor and. Cougars have a certain joie de vivre that men their age who have been beaten up by life have lost; so they look for a younger companion with whom to have fun. Older women tend to know what they want sexually, too and are less inhibited about expressing their needs to a younger man who is eager to please.

They have suffered through the slings and arrows of life and survived and gained perspective. But sex isn't the only reason to date a Cougar. They typically don't play games and their personal boundaries are better than they were in their twenties. A Cougar who is sane and secure in who she is has a lot to offer in terms of life experience and advice.

If she if financially secure, she is not so concerned about finding a man who can take care of her.